Twenty-nine years into our marriage, several deployments, a handful of PCS, ministry in the community, raising an adult daughter and now preparing to prepare our twins for college, we are finally about to face “Empty Nest Syndrome”. As a couple, we had to become intentional in keeping the romance and sparkle alive in our marriage. Mind you, it has taken us years to arrive at this point, but we have started dating again.
We are dating each other of course.
As we started to “date” each again, it was strange at first, because all of our conversations went back to our daily routine of questions: what are the kids doing, who needs to be picked up and where, whose staying over, how was work today. You get it ~
We pushed through, so the transition of being a couple without the children wouldn’t be a huge shock for me considering my history of depression. I especially wanted to be alert of any tactics the enemy would want to our marriage. We were best friends enjoyed and loved each other before we were blessed with children, we love each other now.
So Let The Dating Begin
We began enthusiastically dating again ~ I was GIDDY that my husband wanted to date ME. We set aside Friday nights to do US.
If you and your spouse are starting a new season of intentional dating in your life, don’t expect it to flow easily, it won’t, but it’s a decision and you can do it! It’s about ensuring one another that you’re there and present. A time to enjoy growing with each other again and reconnecting.
If you or someone you know would like to rekindle the fire, but one of you isn’t interested. This is the time to start fasting and praying for God to intervene in the marriage. Pray that they have a desire to be with you, to fall in love again and restore the marriage relationship.
God desires for us to be intimate and the marriage restored. It is our responsibility to keep the intimacy in the marriage together and have unity in love. The intimacy we have with our spouses can be directly related to how intimate we are in our relationship with God.
My Best Tips to Give when Dating Is:
- Put DOWN the Phone and LOOK at each other in the eyes.
- Give compliments to each other.
- Relax and enjoy being together.
- Laugh out loud.
- Hold Hands and hug each other.
So now that we’ve covered what to do on the date what are you going to do.
Here are my 10 date ideas for the married couple:
- Go to a movie together.
- Find a nearby park and have a picnic. (We’ve even had picnics on the living room floor if the weather wasn’t nice)
- Discover a nature trail and experience the beautiful outdoors with heartfelt conversation.
- Dinner at a favorite restaurant.
- Day trip to a place you’ve never gone before.
- Go window shopping that will spark conversation. (Cars, Watches, Clothes, RVs, Handbags, etc.)
- Laser Tag and/or ride Go Karts. (Remember Laugh Out Loud)
- Take the Five Love Language Quiz then share your results.
- A visit to a nearby amusement park.
- Coffee Lovers ~ go to a quaint bakery and enjoy dessert and coffee together.
- Spice Things Up ~ Dress up, wear your favorite cologne, and put on heels 🙂 Keep the night focused on one another and bring back the intimacy you once shared.
What are some of your favorite ways with your spouse? Share your Date Night (Day) ideas in the comments.
When is the last time you went on a date with your spouse?